Why We Fight So Damn Much
Break the Cycle. Repair the Connection.
When you need help but don’t know where to start…these guides make the first step simple
Not ready to talk out loud yet? You’re embarrassed, overwhelmed, or just want to try self help first. That’s why this $9 guide exists — so you can start healing quietly, privately, at home.
Ready to Reset the Fighting?
Here’s the truth: The fight isn’t the problem. It’s the repair that makes the difference.
Every conversation turns into an argument. You start talking about one thing, but somehow it ends in the same fight you’ve had a hundred times. The words change, but the outcome doesn’t — frustration, silence, exhaustion..
Here’s What You’ll Gain:
Turning fights into conversations → Learn how to pause, repair, and actually feel heard.
Understanding hidden patterns → See how nervous system reactions, family codes, and old scripts drive conflict.
Building healthier rhythms → Practice tools that reduce escalation and create lasting change.
Strengthening your bond → Repair without blame so both partners feel respected and connected.
WHAT AM I GETTING?
Real Relationship Relief, Created by a Licensed Couples Therapist. For just $9, get both the e-book and audiobook designed to help you rebuild trust, communication, and closeness.
What You’ll Learn Inside Why We Fight So Damn Much
This isn’t about stopping arguments forever.
It’s about finally understanding the patterns beneath the fights — and learning tools to shift them.
1. The Nervous System is at War
Why your body reacts before your brain can, and how to calm conflict instead of escalating it.
2. Family Codes You Didn’t Choose
How inherited emotional patterns (epigenetics) still show up in your relationship today.t.
3. Losing Yourself to Keep the Peace
Why fusion and over-adapting erode connection, and how to hold onto yourself without losing love.
4. Power, Control, and Old Scripts
The hidden beliefs that shape your fights and how to rewrite the story.
5. Family Loyalties That Interfere
Why old family roles keep sneaking into your partnership — and how to reset boundaries.
6. Practice That Builds Change
How small daily shifts, not perfection, create lasting repair and rhythm.
- ✔️It’s private. No one needs to know what you’re working through.
- ✔️It’s simple. A clear first step that doesn’t overwhelm you.
- ✔️ It’s only $9. Real help without therapy prices.
🎧 Audiobook Access
You don’t have to wait to start reconnecting. When you purchase the eBook, you’ll automatically receive free streaming access to the entire audiobook — so you can listen anytime, anywhere.
JOIN A WORKSHOP FOR FURTHER UNDERSTANDING AND REPAIR
Wish you had someone guiding you through the hard parts?
Our eBooks give you the first steps—the tools to begin making change. That’s why we offer dedicated live workshops, personally led by Sharion Phelps, LMFT/ Relationship Expert and founder of EyeAm9.
In each session, we move beyond reading into real practice—walking step by step through the material, answering your questions in real time, and giving you the confidence to apply these tools in your relationship.
Break the Cycle → Repair the Connection.
A 4-week guided experience that helps couples move beyond the same repeating arguments. Learn why you both react the way you do, practice real-time repair skills, and rebuild communication that lasts.
Reset the Fighting
I’m Sharion N.A. Phelps, LMFT. For years, I’ve worked with couples in the middle of betrayal, resentment, and fights that never resolve.
What I know is this: it’s not the fight itself — it’s how you repair that matters.
That’s why I created this ebook — to give you the same tools I use in sessions so you can start repairing at home, at your own pace.
For the price of a cup of coffee, you’ll learn what most couples don’t discover until therapy.